How often do you hear that as an excuse for someone’s disrespectful behavior? Oh My Goodness! Why would you say that? Girl, please. I’m real!
People are living in this fantasy world where it is okay to speak what is on your mind, say how you feel and treat people as you please because, get this, you’re so real!
As a Coach, I have had the honor of working with people, women in particular, supporting their healing in the most painful spaces, deepest wounds and highest walls they hide behind. I’ve had the pleasure of hearing people’s hearts and been given the opportunity to help them create shifts and provide HOPE. One thing I have learned from this is that there is a definite difference between ‘being real’ and authenticity.
‘I’m real’ has become the excuse for not taking care of necessary inner work, which causes the pain to leak through the mouth and wound others.
Speaking without a filter or a lack of compassion toward another person’s feelings is not about ‘being real’ it’s being an unkind and hurtful person.
Every time I hear someone declare, ‘this is just me, I’m real’, I automatically think they’re hiding something, because let’s be honest – the cliché has been ran through the mud so much and there’s no truth in it.
You’re real? Nice to meet you, heffa. I’m authentic!
There’s a lot you can lose when you choose to be authentically you. You lose your pride, you lose your walls, you lose your excuses and you possibly lose people. But, there’s so much more to gain! When you stop ‘being real’ and begin living authentically, you no longer have to be the broken pieces AND the glue. You don’t have to pretend to have it all together anymore. You’re given the luxury of being on a faith walk instead of a constant strategizing session.
You don’t have to constantly figure out what you have to do to make sure people know you’re ‘being real’ instead of a hurting human in need of a hug.
It’s okay to let the walls down. It doesn’t mean you have to trust everyone from the jump or hand over your whole heart, but it is an opportunity to be yourself in the process of healing, growing and learning without the pressures of being someone you’re not to hide the someone that needs healing.